I work at a home improvement store. Its a kind of store that sells materials that typically men do for a career or a hobby. Women do shop there in the more girly departments and then you have the women that do typical men jobs. Then you have people who shop there for presents for other people but they don't count in this post. I would never sexually discriminate any of them by assuming they CAN'T do their job just because they are women. It really amazes me how many customers come in and ASSUME that I can't answer their questions because I am a woman.
I have worked there for over 2 years so even if I had no prior knowledge in some areas I can now answer pretty general questions. Usually what I know helps the customer but sometimes I don't even get that far because they would rather have a man answer. Seriously, I have had people tell me this. WTF?
Anyway, last night at work I was suppose to be in my little room answering a phone all night. But they were short on cashiers and since I'm trained I did returns all night as well as answering the phones. I also did breaks at the service desk. I was quite the busy gal last night. So a guy walks in and starts asking a co worker a question about pellet wood. The co worker said 'I'm sorry I don't know anything about that you will have to ask her.' He then pointed to me. I heard the whole question so I start answering the guys question and he refuses to look at me! He is still staring at my male co worker like I wasn't even there! I'm a little shorter than these guys so I lean over, stand on my tip-e-toes and wave my hands in front of his face. He still refuses to acknowledge me. I don't know what his problem was/is with females but apparently he has one. While I was taking down his information he still absolutely refused to make eye contact with me. It was like he was embarrassed that me, a female, was helping him.
It really angered and disgusted me that people treat other people(women) this way.
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What an asshole.... Sometimes I think if that kind of man had an self esteem issue relted to a woman while growing up... 'Cause that's not freaking normal! Or maybe there's way too much macho men in this world needing to so their own food, laundry, etc... Stupid men... *sigh*
Maybe that was just it, he was embarrassed. For some guys (as women know), it can be difficult asking for help, and it is a humbling experience to get help from anyone, especially from a woman that knows more than you. It's not about being sexist, or being an asshole. It was probably a "pride" thing, and again (as women also know), men can be fickle when it comes to that.
I don't know the entire situation, obviously, but he could also have felt bad that he ignored you in the first place. For the socially awkward (like myself), we don't always know how to react in those situations.
I'm not telling you how to feel, and you still have every right to be offended. I just think it is unfair to lump him in with the other true "assholes".
But that's just my opinion.
You don't really know me at all but I would just like to say that I'm not the type of person that would just lump someone in a group. I am like the least judgemental person ever. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Your comment really just pissed me and made me feel like I have no right to have my feelings hurt and be upset.
Also, if you were in front of me saying this I might have punched you in the face. just sayin'.
P.S I'm only kidding about punching you in the face. I have never punched anyone in the face and I've def. had more reason to than this.
I'm sorry if I offended you, but as I said in my comment, I wasn't telling you how you should feel. You have every right to be offended by what that guy did, as you were there. Who am I to tell you that you should be? I wouldn't do that.
I was just stating my opinion. Perhaps I was out of line, but I've been in a situation before where I've been called an asshole because of my reaction from being socially awkward.
Again, I'm sorry.
I used to work at a Circuit City and in certain departments especially it was the same - they never said anything but you knew. Now, telephones and CD players, those I could sell haha but all the guys looked incredulous when I knew anything about video games, computers or any of that other stereotypical "male stuff"
But, oh well. It's our job as women to let men think they know more than we do - where would they be without their little egos? (j/k)
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What a pig. Sometimes, men are so retarded. Obviously you know something if you're working there.
I hate that! It seems to be the same thing and cars. When I go to pick MY car up from the repair shop and my husband goes with me they tell HIM about what's wrong and not me. I'm like, HELLO, who's name is on the ticket there?! MINE not his--talk to me!
Well, we can't know what was in the guy's mind but it was upsetting to you and that sucks.
I had a similar experience when I was the head graphic designer of a small newspaper. I took my boyfriend with me to visit the printers where they printed our paper, to check out their operation and see how it all worked. It was in a small town with not much there except this printing business. Anyway, despite the fact they all knew I was coming, they'd all spoken to me numerous times on the phone and the fact that I introduced my boyfriend as such, all the guys working there addressed their explanations of how everything worked to my boyfriend. Even if I asked a question, they would start out answering me, but eventually their eyes would slide off me & over to him, and you could almost see them relax. It was really bizarre!
what a jerk :( sorry you had to put up with him. that's so disrespectful! that's great that you kept helping him. i would have told him some things i probably shouldn't...
What ignorant asshole, pardon my french. I hope you told him what for lol, I certainly would have.
Anyways just leaving a comment as Im passing by :) nice blog.
it's sad to hear this still goes on; I mean what year are we in...do they not watch home improvement shoes...I would be upset too!
My sister get's treated the same way at her job, LOWES! She has a lot of knowledge about flooring (my Dad has his own business) and so she is the go-to person, but some MEN refuse to take her advice.
Tragic that even though it's 2008, there are still MEN in the world that think we don't know anything!
Men can be so stupid and ignorant. I play video games on xbox live which is filled with males and when they find out I'm a girl they either hit on me or tell me I have no life and that I am probably fat or ugly. Wake up men, women have the same rights as you...and you were obviously qualified to answer that guys question. Ugh.
well, he's either ignorant, or a bonehead or some combination of the two! You probably intimidated him cause you knew more than he did. lol Good for you!
Men are stupid at times and think that a woman knowing something they should know means they are inferior!
And now I feel sorry for Badass Geek because you ripped him a new one and he didn't mean to offend you!
Where have you been, friend? Missing you in blogland!
hello? just checkin in! haven't heard from you in awhile :) hope all is well. did you get my package?
I have had similar experiences. In a BOOK STORE. **shakes head** Sorry he made you feel so bad.
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